January 10, 2013

3 Things to Make Me Happier in 2013

I'm not a fan of New Year's Resolutions. At all.

I think it's the whole concept of negativity surrounding resolutions that gets to me. You know, the old there's-something-wrong-with-you-that-you-need-to-change vibe that 99% of all resolutions seem to carry? I think that it's counterproductive to say the least and a potential beat down for anybody's self esteem when you crash and burn after the first week. Ugh, been there.

Anyway for the sake of argument, let's assume that I am already nearly perfect and don't need to change a thing. (hey, this is my blog post, alright?) With that certainty in mind, I have decided that to focus this year on making positive things happen in my life instead of looking at myself as someone desperately in need of major life reconstruction.

This is my list of Three Simple Things that are going to payoff BIG in Happy Points in my life. Three things that are going to make me a happier person to be around, living a happier life and with a whole lotta extra happiness to spread around!

So, don't just sit there, go get your Happy Pants on so we can get started!

The $5 Thing:


Throughout this year, every time my husband or myself find ourselves with a $5 bill, we are putting it in a special large envelope that we have taped inside a cabinet door, out of our everyday sight. We're not allowed to peek or count it until October 1 or to use any of the money out of the envelope. Once it's in there, it's invisible.

Why is this going to make me a happier person? Because it's exciting and F-U-N to build up our mini nest egg and think about what we might do with that little self made windfall. We've already come up with some great Date Night Extravaganza scenarios and the anticipation of doing something special (and probably totally selfish but we don't care) is making us both as squirmy as a couple of two year olds in church.

The Thankful Jar Thing:


I have a nice big glass jar and a stack of little paper slips handy to write down the little things that make me smile, make my day, make me think, make me mad, make me crazy or make me stop in awe and wonder throughout this year.  Sometime in early December I'll go through the slips in the jar, read them all and put them in order.

Why is this going to make me a happier person? Two reasons: First because it's good for me spiritually to look back over the year and recognize just how much God blessed, protected, graced and helped me. And secondly because I will end up with either The Best Christmas Letter In Human History or a fun little Year In Review Scrapbook gift for my kids to enjoy. When they are forty and finally figure out that I wasn't as weird as they thought..

12 Dinners with Friends Thing:


I sat my Sweetie down (first I had to steal the remote and threaten to duct tape him to a kitchen chair, but that's besides the point) and we made a list of twelve couples that we haven't seen in a bazillion years. We put each of their names in an envelope, one for each month.

Why is this going to make me a happier person? Because on the first of each month we'll get together with that couple to schedule a dinner in or out, a game night, a movie night... something fun to revive and renew a friendship that has been slowly crushed under the weight of our too busy lives. I'll be happier because I will have readjusted my priorities and life into a better balance every month, and it didn't hurt a bit!

I already know that 2013 is going to be a great year. I knew the minute that I realized that being a happier person will actually take care of all that other negative stuff that the hypothetically imperfect Me would otherwise be obsessing about. Stuff like eating better, exercising more, getting a better balance between my work life as an artist and my family life... All that will be the natural byproduct of being a happier, more relaxed, more joyfully inclined Me.

 So if you're feeling underwhelmed by your current resolutions, feel free to steal my Three Simple Things idea for your New Years Non-Resolutions this year instead. I'll bet you end up having to buy a size bigger pair of Happy Pants!


Bespangled Jewelry said...

I couldn't agree with you more about resolutions. They tend to be very negative and almost set you up for failure right out of the gate with the "stop doing this" and "cut back on that" type language.

I am working on a similar list for myself that I'm not going to call 'resolutions' either, and they are all going to be phrased positively, like "more this" and "more that". I also like to think of it as things that will make me happier in 2013!

I LOVE the idea of the $5 bills. Might have to borrow that one! Thanks for a great post :)

SplendorVendor said...

2013 is going to be a GREAT year!
Excellent post Buffy!